From a small pamphlet "Coping with the Death of a Spouse," by Rabbi Rachel Cowan. From a nice series called Life Lights, Help for wholeness and healing, words for the soul by Jewish LIghts Publishing (www.jewishlights.com). More from the pamphlet at another time.
Rabbi Cowan quotes a poem by Merrit Malloy
(this may be a good time to grab a tissue....just warning you all)
When I die
If you need to weep
Cry for someone
Walking the street beside you.
And when you need me
Put your arms around others
And give them what you need from me.
You can love me most by letting
Hands touch hands, and
Souls touch souls.
You can love me most by
Sharing your joys
Multiplying your good deeds.
You can love me most by
Letting me live in your eyes
And not in your mind.
And when you say Kaddish for me
Remember what our Torah teaches,
Love doesn't die --
People do.
So when all that's left of me is love
Give me away.
