i'm not there yet, but things are changing.
i'm not reading the obituary pages any more. well i did a few days ago, and found that the ex-husband of a high school classmate had died. but for a while there i was reading them almost every day, looking for others who died from pancreatic cancer. being frustrated when sometimes it would say simply "cancer" and not specify. i certainly don't check the grief/mourning sections of bookstores any more, and i'm ready to part with a number of books that i've collected over the past year. i thought when i first got them that i would keep them forever. there are 3 or 4 that i will keep but the rest i'm happy to pass along to the group or the library at Hospice of the Valley.
so sometimes the progress is measurable, and sometimes not.
at least there is a clear direction.
