yesterday i was outside talking with our neighbor Carl and a pretty large hummingbird was drinking from the agapanthus. he flitted around, landed on a small branch, then on a horizontal stem. got Ketzl's attention, too. then he flew over and passed by my arm with only about 10 inches clearance. that was pretty amazing.
Linda's title of "queen of fucking everything" included clearly "queen of airflow." i'm working on my princess of airflow certificate. it was warm today and promises to be even hotter the next few days. it got to 83 degrees in the house (not an appropriate inside temperature if you ask me) so now the sliding door in the bedroom is open and the fan up to the "attic" and the fan out the dining room window are both running. i think i've got it right, drawing the air through the house. i can feel the cool air flowing. let's see how long it takes for the degrees to drop. see, we don't have a/c in a lot of houses in northern california.
so the collection continues. the book "good grief: healing through the shadow of loss" is by Deborah Morris Coryell. i am now in touch with her via email. then i found out that "good grief" is also the name of a bereavement center in the Pittsburgh PA area. they have a lot of good information on their website. one of their pages is 20 tips. see them here: http://www.goodgriefcenter.com/help/twenty_tips.php i'm not sure if that will show up correctly as a link. and i need to learn how to put pictures up here. like buffaloes and flowers and pictures of the Tovah car and Shelley and Liz from the trip. i learned a lot but there is still so much to learn.
i don't know exactly how to set the timers on just about anything in the house. but i can learn. i don't yet know where the camera cables are. i need to learn more how to do stuff to completion. get the sink cleaned out tonight because of the heat. ketzl just walked across the keyboard but i didn't leave his contribution.
from "good grief"
'when we are involved in the process of remembering, we are learning how to put ourselves, our "members," back together. we are reconfiguring ourselves in such a way that includes what is no longer physically present in our lives. with thought and intention and time, we begin to manage what seemed impossible at the beginning. we are weaving this loss into the tapestry of our lives as we discover the relationship is not lost. the "other" is no longer separate from us but eternally part of our physical being.'
so i remember. and thank you out there in blogland for also remembering Linda. say her name. tell stories. enjoy your food with a smile. do a crossword or sudoku puzzle. appreciate a flower or a butterfly. think of how Linda would handle something, what her response to a situation would be. appreciate a well-tuned joke. be extra considerate of someone. make the stranger feel welcome. the recipients of your kindness will not necessarily know that is is Linda you are channeling, but that won't matter. you will know, and your kindness will not be forgotten. just remember to keep tissues handy.
and the temperature has dropped 2 degrees! it's working! the princess of airflow rules! consultations available at a nominal fee. :~) it's not going to be a fun next few days.
